It is a natural instinct to want to help our struggling children. When does this instinct turn into a pattern of helping that is actually hurting more than helping?
Questions to ask yourself:
- Do you find yourself preoccupied with your adult child?
- Do you find yourself losing control: yelling, threatening, behavior uncharacteristic of yourself?
- Are you cancelling vacations, parties, time with friends because you cannot trust your adult child?
- Has youradult child stolen from you? Are you locking up valuables in your own home because you cannot trust your adult child?
- Are you and your spouse arguing because you cannot seem to agree on what to do?
- Do you feel like a hostage in your home because of the above feelings, unable to ask your adult child to leave or get help?
One of the main concepts in the workshop is the concept of Detaching with Love.
Detachment with love means caring enough about others to allow them to learn from their mistakes. It also means being responsible for our own welfare and making decisions without ulterior motives–the desire to control others.
In the workshop you will receive education on the following:
- Enabling vs. Helping
- Setting boundaries
- Understanding your underlying motives for enabling behaviors
You will leave with a plan for change and the support you need to implement the change.
This group is offered periodically to support parents to continue to implement healthy behaviors learned in the workshop. Change is difficult and this group will help you stay on track and be the parent that you want to be. The definition of insanity is “doing the same thing expecting different results.”
Call our office to determine the date of the next weekend workshop: (808) 243-3200