I appreciate it when famous people talk about recovery. The stigma still exists in today’s society. As much work as we have done to prove that addiction is a brain disease, people are still ashamed to admit they have the disease. Evidence supports what Ms. Curtis said about changing the prevalence of addiction in her family. When one person gets into recovery it has an impact on others in the family. Thank you Ms. Curtis for “coming out.”
Christopher Lawford (nephew of John F. Kennedy) is a Maui resident and willing to help our community raise awareness about the stigma attached to addiction, and to educate this community about what works and what does not work when dealing with addiction. In his book he talks about families educating themselves about enabling behaviors and how to break the cycle in the family. To quote ” You can throw them a rope but don’t go in the water,” is a great way to tell families they can help their loved ones only if they help themselves. Debbie Bayer is a licensed family therapist and addictions specialist, she has over 30 years of personal recovery from addiction. She lost her Mother to alcoholism in 1988. Debbie understands the disease of addiction both from the perspective of the addict/alcoholic but also from that of the family members.
“On the plane from Albany, New York to Portland, Oregon, I deleted my heroin dealer’s phone number. It wasn’t the first time I’d done that—more like the 15th—and each time I’d felt a strange resistance. I knew that I would miss my heroin dealer that had been oh so accommodating in terms of helping me to ruin myself. I loved people that enabled my irresponsibility. In hindsight, he was my doctor. And I was a happy patient.” Read the full article from TheFix.com.
DBT is a core part of Behavioral Health Hawaii’s Intensive Outpatient Program.
Betty Ford‘s children’s program is hands down the best in the country. They offer scholarship’s and try not to turn any child away. Children are the collateral damage of addiction. They need just as much help and support as the addict.
Sadly, last week, the son of the Clipper’s owner was found dead in his Malibu home from what KTLA reported appeared to be a drug overdose.
It is important to remember that a relapse after a period of abstinence from opioid is very dangerous. The addict thinks they can use as much as they did prior to abstaining and they overdose. They think ‘I’ll just use this one time‘ and it becomes the last time…
God Bless his family and all the families that lose their children to this horrible disease. Learning the difference between enabling and helping your adult child is very important. I can help.