Giving up on the addict?

Aloha,
Let’s face it addicts and alcoholic’s are hard to love. Rather, their behavior is hard to love. It’s easy to say ” I give up, nothing works, they will have to hit bottom, they don’t want help.” I can understand why loved ones feel that way. You spend thousands of dollars, countless sleepless nights, begging, bargaining, aruging to no avail. The addict steals, lies, and breaks your heart. Just when you think they are getting better, they are using/drinking again. What I can tell you is that it takes an understanding of the disease of addiction and a lot of outside help to find the strenght to hang in there and keep the hope alive. When loved ones tell me that “they have done everything, nothing works,” most of the time they have spent their time, money, and energy doing what doesn’t work. Many people send the addict to residential treatment thinking everything should be fine when they get back. The treatment industry fails families when they don’t inform them that the residential treatment stay is just the tip of the iceberg, it will take years to recover. We spend all the time during the crisis period when the most dangerous time is when it’s life as usual. It doesn’t matter how many times the addict has been to treatment. It may matter financially, many families have spent thousands on treatment. Here on Maui residents can get treatment at Aloha House for very little money. Aloha House accepts quest insurance and has state contracts that allow them to treat people at no cost. No excuses to not try again. Dealing with addiction is not something you should do without the help of a professional that understands how the disease of addiction behaves. It is something that requires specialization because addiction behaves in ways that does not make sense to a non specialist. At Behavioral Health Hawaii we understand substance dependence and the impact it has on everyone it touches. Please get all the help you can, and please don’t give up on the addict. You may have to pull back and get help for yourself, but never give up.